{"id":497,"date":"2021-06-22T09:59:30","date_gmt":"2021-06-22T09:59:30","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/koosjekosters.com\/?p=497"},"modified":"2021-08-18T01:50:36","modified_gmt":"2021-08-18T01:50:36","slug":"6-step-ifs-process","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/koosjekosters.com\/?p=497","title":{"rendered":"6 Step IFS Process"},"content":{"rendered":"<h2><strong>The 6Fs: The Steps We Use to Help Protective Parts Differentiate from the Self<\/strong><\/h2>\n<p><em>The first three steps (find, focus, flesh out) involve helping parts to unblend.<\/em><\/p>\n<p><strong>1.\u00a0<\/strong>FIND the part in, on or around the body.<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>Who needs your attention right now?<\/li>\n<li>Where do you notice it?<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><strong>2.\u00a0<\/strong>FOCUS on it.<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>Turn your attention inside.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><strong>3.\u00a0<\/strong>FLESH it out.<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>Can you see it? If so, how does it look?<\/li>\n<li>If not, how do you experience it? What is that like?<\/li>\n<li>How close are you to it?<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><strong>4.\u00a0<\/strong>How do you <b>FEEL<\/b> toward the part?<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>This question is our Geiger Counter for Self-energy. Any answer that is not in the ballpark of the 8 C\u2019s (The qualities of Self-energy: <em>Curiosity, calm, clarity, connectedness, confidence, courage, creativity and compassion<\/em>) means that a second part is influencing our thoughts. We ask this second part if it is willing to relax so we can talk to the target part.<em> \u201cIf it is not willing to relax,\u201d <\/em>we ask it what it needs us to know. This process may lead us to a second (or third, fourth\u2026) target part.<\/li>\n<li>Reactive parts often need to feel heard and validated. We stay with them until they are willing to let us get to know the target part.<\/li>\n<li>Once they agree, we ask the client, <em>\u201cHow do you feel toward the (target) part now?\u201d<\/em><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><b>5. BeFRIEND<\/b> the part by finding out more about it.<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>The fifth step involves learning about the target part and developing a friendly relationship. This builds relationships internally (Self to part) and externally (part to therapist). <em>\u201cHow did it get this job?\u201d \u201cHow effective is the job?\u201d \u201cIf it didn\u2019t have to do this job, what would it rather do?\u201d \u201cHow old is it?\u201d \u201cHow old does it think you are?\u201d \u201cWhat else does it want you to know?\u201d<\/em><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><strong>6.<\/strong> What does this part <b>FEAR<\/b>?<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>\u201cWhat does it want for you?\u201d<\/li>\n<li>\u201cWhat would happen if it stopped doing this job?\u201d<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p><b>This key question will reveal any lurking polarization.<\/b><br \/>\n\u201cIf I stop feeling anxious, I\u2019m afraid the suicidal part will take over.\u201d Or it will reveal the exile it protects.<br \/>\n\u201cIf I stop feeling anxious I\u2019m afraid Jane will feel all alone and worthless.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>Use this simple exercise to help your clients understand and work with their internal parts to begin the deep healing process that trauma requires.<\/p>\n<h1><strong class=\"he cz\">Unburdening-Process<\/strong><\/h1>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<ol>\n<li id=\"ffcc\" class=\"hc hd fn he b hf ix hg hh hi iy hj hk hl iz hm hn ho ja hp hq hr jb hs ht hv dm gj\"><strong class=\"he cz\">CONTACTING EXILE:<\/strong> Establishing a connection between the Self and Exile in which the Self can be present with the experience of the exile.<\/li>\n<li><strong class=\"he cz\">WITNESSING EXILE:<\/strong> Inviting the Exile to show anything it wants to show so it can be seen, felt and understood \u2014 in what happened and how that made it feel.<br \/>\n<strong class=\"he cz\">Additionally:<\/strong> Supporting the Exile in understanding that this happened in the past.<\/li>\n<li><strong class=\"he cz\">REPARENTING EXILE:<\/strong> Allowing the Exile to have a new experience. Either in the memory of the past OR in the present.<\/li>\n<li><strong class=\"he cz\">RETRIEVING EXILE:<\/strong> Freeing the Exile from the situation of the past and bringing it into a better situation in imagination or the present.<\/li>\n<li><strong class=\"he cz\">UNBURDENING EXILE:<\/strong> Holding a ritual in which the Exile can let go of the Burdens it has been holding. To\u00a0wind, water, fire, earth, light, or something else. \u00a0Show exile memories (lifespan integration therapy) of whole life.<\/li>\n<li><strong class=\"he cz\">INTEGRATING EXILE AND PROTECTOR:<\/strong> Finding a good place for both Exile and protector in the system and life.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>The 6Fs: The Steps We Use to Help Protective Parts Differentiate from the Self The first three steps (find, focus, flesh out) involve helping parts to unblend. 1.\u00a0FIND the part in, on or around the body. Who needs your attention right now? Where do you notice it? &nbsp; 2.\u00a0FOCUS on it. 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